platovevo:

me talking to my lesbian and bi women friends: i don’t believe that “attraction” is a well-defined concept and i generally lean social constructivist when it comes to sexual orientation—what i identify as my lesbianism arises in a certain social context and i don’t necessarily think it’s some kind of mystical and essential part of me. i think it’s ok to define your orientation that way if you want but i also think that, especially for women, many people find it more healing to define it sort of actively. you’re not beholden to an immutable Nature that you can’t challenge; you can define what you want and seek. as such there’s more of a gray space between lesbianism and bisexuality than many people would tell you, and sometimes choosing one label over the other is a matter of gut feeling and not the cold scientific distinction people may picture. of course it doesn’t make sense to call yourself a lesbian if you’re pursuing men, but in dealing with misogyny and compulsory heterosexuality a woman may make the choice of whether or not to include some kind of “potential” attraction to men in her orientation. basically, if you want to be a lesbian, you can be a lesbian, and if you want to be a bisexual woman, you can be a bisexual woman. sexuality should be something you actively participate in and that makes you feel happy and comfortable with yourself, not something preexisting that you just can’t escape from and are forced to accept.

me talking to men or straight people or people whose politics i don’t know and trust: i was born this way.

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twentyonelizards:

lostwednesdays:

Guys who think periods are nbd are my favorite guys.

Also:

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I wanna add as well that he didn’t write ‘women’, he wrote ‘people who menstruate’. Dude is cool on every conceivable level.

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saturnwonder:

lost-in-misunderstood-thoughts:

sppaade:

if anyone wants to know how the employees do it, heres my process

rebloging this because maybe now I can stop feeling like a horrible person at stores because now I can fix it!!

SAVE A LIFE

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hey dears!!

wasntthatafunnyday:

glorious-asexual:

there is a book coming out on the 23rd this month called “Let’s Talk About Love“ by Claire Kann and I would to tell you guys that it is about an asexual biromantic girl !!!

So please please please preorder it or buy it when it comes out!! hopefully it’ll be a great read with great ace representation! ❤

It’s really, really great!

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aenramsden:

infjconfessions:

lunarcentrism:

phoenix-falls:

augustinesycamore:

white people are racist by default (in the united states as well as other countries). are you white? congrats, you’re racist, and here’s the explanation:

you grew up in a racist society -> you were socialized to be racist thanks to racism being a dominant ideology -> you benefit from racism -> you’re racist no matter how much u think you’re not.

unlearning it is going to be a constant battle and u will never unlearn it fully. accept this. it is ingrained in you as a result of your upbringing and the media you’ve consumed. the sooner you come to terms with your own racism, the sooner u can better yourself. recognize the problem in yourself instead of setting yourself apart from those “other” white people.

I fux heavy with the White people who keep putting this post on my dash

This applies to all social structures by the way.

You’re a man? You grew up benefitting from sexism.
You’re straight? You grew up with homophobic ideals.
You’re cis? You grew up with transphobic ideals.
You’re able bodied? You grew up with ableist tendencies.

The process of unlearning all of the ideology you were surrounded by is what activism is about. Do it.

And even if you’re not privileged under a given social structure, you might still have a lot of internalized things to unlearn

Our society teaches us to hate the oppressed, if an oppressed person says that what you believe or do is harmful and they tell you – don’t get offended, learn and do better

The important thing here is, nobody’s blaming you (the general “you”) for this. I think a big part of the reason people get so offended when they hear these attitudes is because it sounds like “you’re a horrible person and support these things”. That’s not what it means, and that’s not what you are.

But society feeds us a steady diet of memetic poison almost from the day we’re born, and for each blend of poison there are groups who are more or less immune, groups who are harmed in ways they don’t really notice and groups who suffer horribly from it. It’s not your fault that you’ve been fed poison, and nobody is blaming you for having been fed poison.

It’s just… the poison is there, and because you’ve been fed so much of it, it’s in your bloodstream and your lips and your head. And you might not notice it’s there if it’s not harming you or visibly harming others around you, and spread it without realising that’s what you’re doing.

That’s why it’s so important to recognise and identify harmful ideologies for what they are and learn about the harm they do, so you can start checking your first reaction and changing the ways you’ve been taught to act and think.

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through-shadows-falling:

maderr:

wingedsaboteur:

shiraglassman:

holdtheskeletongrillby:

shiraglassman:

wlws:

why are wlw books so angsty and deep all the time like where is my casual wlw romcom or my fantasy lesbians, space bis and trans princesses like not every wlw has some lost love in some town in the middle of nowhere

I live for posts like this, because there are soooo many good f/f books out there that don’t get the attention they deserve because of the way wlw are marginalized. So!

Here are some recs for casual/feel-good f/f representation! All links are to my reviews.

Good Enough to Eat – super cute lesbian vampire rom-com

Promises, Promises – parody of LotR/D&D starring three lesbians on a quest for magical stuff

Everything Leads to You – Hollywood f/f YA about a young set designer who falls for a girl she meets under mysterious circumstances

The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet – ensemble-cast “crew of a spaceship” story. Mostly just random adventures, includes a f/f couple who survive the book.

Roller Girl – contemporary f/f romance about trans woman who joins a roller derby team

Not fluffy, but the angst is SFF-stress rather than “living under homophobia/biphobia” stress:

Ascension – queer disabled ladies fighting Big Pharma in space–you wanted space bi’s, come get your space bi’s (actually, if you want more space bi’s also check out the anthology Fierce Family.)

Chameleon Moon – review is of an earlier edition and I hear the new one has even more great representation. Trans woman superhero with two female partners living in a dystopian city that’s on lockdown from the government after everyone develops mutant powers in response to a wonderdrug.

Not Your Sidekick – in the future, what happens when your parents are superheroes but you never developed powers? You intern for the baddie, of course! MC is bi and ends up in a f/f relationship, and the sequel will star her trans bestie.

Hope this helps. Feel free to browse my “lesbian books” tag for more recs (there are bi/pan girls in some of those recs, too.)

*coughalsoeverythingshiraglassmanwritescough* *coughsuperfuntimescough*

I mean, this is basically true – f/f fluff is kinda the cornerstone of my body of writing 😛 (Thanks!)

All I Want For Christmas by Clare Lydon – Fluffy wlw romantic comedy (I know it’s not really in season at the moment but it’s so cute)

Gay Pride and Prejudice by Kate Christie – What it says on the tin. Elizabeth Bennett is a lesbian and the haughty Caroline Bingley is the last woman she could ever be prevailed upon to love.

Escape from B-Movie Hell by M.T. McGuire – Silly British sci-fi with a lesbian protagonist

Heart Trouble by Jae – A doctor gets shocked by a defibrillator while saving a woman’s life in the ER. Now they have a soul bond!

Finding Ms Write by Jae & Jove Belle – Collection of short stories about women who love women and also love books.

The Wind City by Summer Wigmore – Urban fantasy drawing on Maori mythology. Protagonist describes herself as “at least 60% gay” and falls in love with a monster girl.

Sword of the Guardian by Merry Shannon – Bi princess and lesbian bodyguard fall in love.

The Case of the Good-for-Nothing Girlfriend by Mabel Maney – Parody detective story about a gang of five lesbians who solve crimes.

A Woman Scorned by Rachel Frank about an assassin who falls in love with a noblewoman (lesbian)

Beauty & Cruelty by Meredith Katz about the evil with falling in love with sleeping beauty (lesbian)

High & Mighty by S.S. Skye – a princess stuck in a tower who is decidely Not Amused about it (lesbian)

Humanity for Beginners by Faith Mudge – Two friends and a halfway house for lesbian werewolves (lesbian)

Hunting a Lady by Cari Z. and Caitlin Ricci – a woman who needs money goes to rescue a kidnapped lady for the reward (lesbian)

Lies & Reverie by Camilla Quinn – A shopkeeper’s daughter who loves to day dream, and the beautiful woman who runs the town (lesbian)

Love Rampage by Alex Powell – a girl in love with her best friend, and the unicorn who helps her (lesbian, trans)

Modern Serpents Talk Things Through by Jamie Brindle – a modern dragon who falls in love with the human who invades her cave (lesbian)

Prom and Other Hazards by Jamie Sullivan – super cute story about a girl, her best friend, and the prom (lesbian, bisexual)

Slaying Dragons by Sasha L. Miller – a frustrated mage, some dragons, and the lovely new partner she’s stuck with (lesbian)

The Broken Forest by Megan Derr – a Huntress, and the beautiful witch she meets dealing with a troublesome forest (lesbian, bisexual, trans)

The Mercenary by Annabelle Kitch – a peasant girl, the princess she loves, a quest to win her princess’s hand in marriage (lesbian)

The Persephone Star by Jamie Sullivan- a proper lady working in the post office, a notorious criminal set on revenge, and a bit of kidnapping (lesbian)

The Secret of Mermaid Cove by Megan Derr – an improper lady, an unwanted engagement, and an island full of secrets

Witch, Cat, and Cobb by J.K. Pendragon – a princess fleeing an arranged marriage, a witch, and a cat (lesbian, trans)

Zombies in the East End by Roxanne Dent – steampunk, zombies, and two tough ladies

California Skies by Kalya Bashe – bandits in the wild west, a hunt for jewels, stubborn people (bisexual, genderqueer)

Green Toes by Avery Flanders – gardens, a hint of magic shoes, and people falling in love (bisexual, genderqueer)

Mine will be coming out this year as well! It’s an F/F YA fantasy, tentatively titled The Sun and Moon Beneath the Stars –

“Alone in a foreign land, Rasha’s ready to end it all when she learns her brother is alive. Not only that, but he’s possessed by the vengeful spirit of a fallen god. She’ll risk anything to save him – even her feelings for the princess she once served.”

I’ll provide more info when I know it – still waiting for edits to come back! 🙂

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