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good-night-white-pride666:

Really happy to see this at my local library

OOOOH. *happy YA librarian dance*

I want this in every library, everywhere. After all, some kids won’t even google this stuff because they don’t want parents/siblings checking their browser history.

This is really awesome. And if you’re not familiar with how the Dewey Decimal system works – the numbers subject-based, which means these numbers are applicable in EVERY library. So if you see something you want to research on this list – look for those same numbers in any of your local libraries.

This is wonderful.

Reblogging to possibly save a life

in case anyone is unable to look up information like this at home

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inkskinned:

inkskinned:

this is going to sound like such a Tumblr Story but I swear it’s happening as i type but like. outside my dorm window these guys were playing catch and they asked their friend to join him and i heard something muttered and then the other guy was like “you’re in college and you don’t know how to throw a football?” and like up in my room i was grimacing bc here come the Gay Sissy jokes obviously but instead – the kid goes “that’s okay! we’ll teach you.” and for the last hour they’ve been teaching him how to play like i’ve been listening and i guess you want to catch with your fingertips and use your elbows and bend your knees and think about your wrists and they’re …? actually being so kind and saying like ? some of the most constructive criticism i’ve ever heard surrounded by things like “oh! great job on that catch” “sweet throw! now you’re getting it!” and … my heart has never been so warm

i just wish this world like told boys… it’s okay to be like this. it’s okay to be supportive and friendly and frankly nurturing to other boys. i wish boys were allowed to be gentle and sweet and kind. boys….. be good, upturn the patriarchal standards and homophobia entrenched in this culture…. go teach a guy how to throw a ball. 

UPDATE: the guy who’s teaching just said “BEAUTIFUL throw! sorry i didn’t catch it but that was PERFECT!!” and the guy who’s learning is like “?? i… i did it good??” and the first guy just says … in the most proud voice ever like .. “bro you did it GREAT” and tbh i’m gonna cry there’s too much Good here

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crazyqueerfrenchfry:

things that scare me: white boys walking behind me when it’s dark outside

things that do not scare me: women and men wearing any head cover or special clothing that corresponds to their religion

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bookcharactersthough:

danielle-writes:

Some advice for when you’re writing and find yourself stuck in the middle of a scene:

  • kill someone
  • ask this question: “What could go wrong?” and write exactly how it goes wrong
  • switch the POV from your current character to another – a minor character, the antagonist, anyone
  • stop writing whatever scene you’re struggling with and skip to the next one you want to write
  • write the ending
  • write a sex scene
  • use a scene prompt
  • use sentence starters
  • read someone else’s writing

Never delete. Never read what you’ve already written. Pass Go, collect your $200, and keep going.

This is the literal best writing advice I have ever read. Period.

Special note: “Kill someone” means kill someone in the story. Please do not kill random real life passers by every time you hit a block. My lawyer says misunderstanding writing advice is not an acceptable defense. See you all in 25 to 50 years.

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voiceofkiki:

cloverclark:

It’s ironic.

When I worked in fast food for minimum wage, they would yell at us and lecture us about “stealing” fries and burgers (while we had to throw out TONS of food every day) as though the giant billion-dollar corporations of McDonald’s and Sonic couldn’t afford to give their employees something to eat (while not even paying us a living wage).

Now I work at an upscale restaurant (it’s fancy, like celebrities eat there fairly often) and not only do I make WAY better money but they give us 2 free meals a day (eaten on the clock) and they’re GOOD. Today I got baked cod, spring rolls, rice pilaf, stir fry, and mashed potatoes and eggplant. Oh, and free espresso and juice. From this restaurant owned by a local man who is in no way a billionaire.

Obviously money is not the issue, valuing your employees as people is.

This needs all of the reblogs.  All of them.

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seeminglycaptivating:

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rosebeaches:

I love kids they’re all like.. “when i grow up i’m gonna be an astronaut and a chef and a doctor and an olympic swimmer” like that self confidence! That drive! That optimism! Where does it go

It gets destroyed by adults not believing in you and telling you to pick a realistic career. And by society creating all these obstacles to the point that you’re too tired to try.

But they’re not really unrealistic, SOMEBODY is going to be an olympic swimmer and it might as well be you.

Actually I want to talk about this a little more than I did, because olympic swimming is incredible and works perfectly to talk about attaining goals.

I used to be a varsity swimmer, and I was damn good, but I was forced into it by my parents and completely lost my love for it and therein my drive. But in high school I was swimming against such talented swimmers like Olympic Swimmer Missy Franklin. I’ve met her, and the main difference between her and me was that I was strong but had no passion, but she was strong BECAUSE she had passion. 

And I could have been good, really good, maybe even Olympic good. I even have the predisposition for it, been swimming since I was 2 years old, have a mom who was almost an olympic swimmer. Missy didn’t have either of those things, she just wanted it, loved it, had been doing it for a long time, and decided she was going to kick ass at it.

Right, that’s great and all, but I completely missed my opportunity to be an olympic swimmer, yeah? and can never achieve those dreams I had as a kid? No, not even though. There was this whole thought that female athletes peak when they’re 17 years old and lose their skills quickly after that, and male athletes peak around 19. But then Olympic Swimmer Dara Torres shows up. She was an olympic swimmer when she was 17, 21 and 25. Pretty normal age for retirement. She had a few kids. She kicked butt at being a mom. 

And then at 33 years old she decides she’s bored or something gets back in shape and kicks so much ass at the trials that she lands herself on the Olympic Team ONCE AGAIN. And then 8 years later, she decides, heck I’m 41 now, no one has ever made the olympic swim team as old as I am, I want to get in shape yet again and teach these children how sports work.

And she still has the record for oldest US Olympic Swimmer, not even any men have beat out that record.

So basically what I’m saying is you could be an olympic swimmer, you really could be. And there are obviously a lot of things stopping you and trying to get in your way: your brain, society, too much chocolate cake for example. But if you really dedicate yourself to it and love it with all of your heart you could, you really could.

And lets say olympic swimming isn’t your jam? That’s cool too. There isn’t a single skill in this world that you can’t learn if you absolutely love it and want to. Any skill you want is going to take time. There are countless famous people who started learning a skill after 20, 30, 40, or even 50. Not a single person has even been president under age 35 (most likely because you’re not allowed to be, but there’s a reason for that). Whatever you want to do you’re probably going to be bad at first, and I’m talking really shitty.

Van Gogh got started in his 20′s and was thought to have no artistic talent at first and was forced to sit in the back of classrooms where the worst artists in the class sat. So yeah you’ll probably be bad, like really bad and everyone including you will think you’re bad. If you stick with it though, if you’re willing to work for years and years, if you keep loving it after all the pain it’s given you, 

then you might just paint Starry Night.

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#looks like there’s still time for me to learn how to draw

… YES. As someone who started drawing at 35 and who always was like: ‘eh, I can’t draw a stick figure to save my life, but I would love to be able to’ this is near and dear to my heart. If you want to draw, start drawing. Keep drawing. Be shit at drawing at first. Keep it up, doodle things on scraps but also draw stuff you don’t think you can draw. Challenge yourself, you will be surprised what you can do. It will be frustrating at times, but it will also be awesome. It is SO much a matter of practice and dedication, not talent.

This applies for writing, too.  

Don’t ever think for a second that it doesn’t!  Want to start writing?  Then write!  You will get better the more you write, the more often, and you will improve, all of the time, as long as you dedicate yourself.  

The worst lie we tell ourselves is “it’s too late.”

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egiru:

celticpyro:

*slams fist on the table* I’M ALWAYS A SLUT FOR NERD/JOCK DYNAMICS!

Boy do I have good news for you

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Fiction & Reality

pilotjedifinn:

I know, who’s ready for this, eh? Anyways, here we go.

When I was a kid, maybe 12 years old, I went to the Experience Music Project & Sci-fi Museum (EMP/SFM) in Seattle for the the first time. In the area where the SFM now puts their traveling exhibits, they had a then-permanent exhibit about the evolution of sci-fi throughout history. It touched on the common themes and morals and ideals, the fear of man being outpaced by technology, the morality of science that we didn’t yet exist and didn’t understand. It looked at sci-fi’s transition from space westerns to an actual genre of its own.

Part of that exhibit was a piece all about science fiction that predicted reality. This looked at maybe a dozen or more major sci-fi publications through time and the real-world science that followed. This included things like Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein predicting organ transplants and multiple HG Wells works that predict multiple future science, including genetic engineering, lasers, and nuclear weapons (wherein he stated that a world govt would be the only thing to save us from nuclear annihilation). We’re not talking vague predictions, either. The World Set Free predicted and inspired the atomic bomb. Leo Szilard developed the chain reaction method of splitting the atom, thereby creating atomic energy. He wrote that HG Wells’ book both showed him the power of such technology to create a better society, as well as destroy it.

Links: BI about sci-fi predicting science || Telegraph about HG Wells’ predictions || BBC on atom bomb and Szilard

Remembering this exhibit today reminded me of a news flood shortly after the release of 50 Shades of Grey about a rise in sex-related injuries. Both in America and Britain, ER visits for foreign object removal absolutely jumped, and it was directly attributed to the release of the novel. Why would that be the case? Well, as a person who’s been in the BDSM community, I can tell you that 50SoG is terrible at accurate describing both toys and consent. It’s not enough to feed someone a new idea and failing information, even in fiction. There’s a reason the BDSM community largely attempted to distance itself, not wanting to be responsible for the thousands of potential injuries newbies could be faced with because they were lacking information.

It’s more than just the idea, though. 50SoG, despite its many problems, became a HUGE success. This not just meant the signing of the movie deal, but the release of merchandise. This included an entire line of branded sex toys. Among the more innocuous stuff like lube, sleep masks, and feather dusters came much more dangerous items like paddles, hand cuffs, and anal plugs. Hand cuffs alone can be dangerous when you do understand BDSM, but throw in a lackluster understanding of consent and safety like we see in 50SoG and that shit can easily become rape and other forms of serious bodily injury. Detractors might say “It’s just fiction, people can tell the difference!” but the BDSM community and many feminists were quick to point out that making that assumption comes with a serious risk. And they were right. Fiction or not, grievous bodily harm befell a lot of people because fiction gave them an idea but left out the context needed for safe execution.

Links: 50SoG Sex Toys || NY Times about rise of sex toy sales || Mirror about rise of 999 calls following book and movie releases || WaPo about jump in ER visits following book release in 2012 || The Atlantic about 50SoG and consent || The Guardian about BDSM feelings on the 50SoG movie

Fiction gives us ideas to explore and consider. Those ideas could be grand, romantic images of fantasy worlds, distant thoughts of a heroic quest, the morality of new sciences. Big, big ideas. It can also gives us little ideas to consider. What it would be like living in a new city or small town, how we would react to some tragedy in our life, the kind of interpersonal relationships we could have if we were just brave enough or bold enough to get out there.

Fiction affects reality in a very real way. You cry when you read a death scene? Fiction is affecting your very reality. You feel happy and relaxed reading a favorite book? Fiction is affecting your reality. You talk about some great idea or morality or social mores you read in a book with your friends? Fiction is affecting your reality.

In a sense, that can often be the point of fiction, science fiction especially. In grade school, we often read fairy tales that are meant to present young kids with “the moral of the story.” These fairy tales often exist for the express purpose of altering reality. It’s a neat, uniquely contained example of some bad behavior or action that wraps up perfectly. Consequences delivered, happily ever after. What better way to teach someone a moral idea? The details of the story don’t detract from the point like they would in real life, and things are clean-cut for children’s understanding. You can’t expect an 8 year-old to really grasp grey or complex morality, can you? Especially not when reality as a concept isn’t even universal, existing on several different levels and driven uniquely by different justifications.

Even more dangerous, fiction can seem like reality and subsequently be taken as such. Political publications are a perfect example of this. Many seem and sound very factual, but have no supporting evidence. Sadly, we often don’t check the facts on things we want to believe. The Oatmeal has a great comic about it that explains it better than I ever could: That can be found here.

This kind of fiction is insidious on purpose. But what about fiction that is insidious on accident? There is plenty of fiction out there that exists for the sake of empathy and identity; this is often the center of the debate around the impact of diversity in literary works and on screens. There was a reason Moonlight was so heralded as an exceptional example of diversity; it wasn’t just that the characters were black, it was also because the movie tonally encourages empathy with the characters. And tone is definitely a part of it. The way we say things, the way they are depicted, has a huge impact on how we understand and internalize those events.

Consider this: Why is it so weird to watch a comedy show without the laugh track? We can even watch bits we’ve laughed at before, only to find them utterly unenjoyable without the laugh track. Tone is another piece of information for the brain as much as dialogue and body language; it tells us how to perceive the information we’re being given. Tone is the concept behind a lot of news circuits and editing, even music. Consider the tone of conservative and liberal pundits interviewing each other: questions are often asked with deliberate flare and frustration or skepticism. The problem being that doing so inherently turns the listener against the interviewee even before there’s been a chance to answer. This leads to fabled “gotcha” moments like we often saw on Bill O’Reilly. What was said doesn’t matter as much as it sounding weak to the audience.

Links: NY Times about brain function during fiction || Pacific Standard about aggression influenced by fiction || The Guardian about fiction affecting empathy || BBC about religious children struggling to distinguish fictional and realistic stories || WaPo interview about dark fiction and teen brains || Psychology Today about fiction media and real-world consequences || 

We use tone to build empathy. We find that things can sound reasonable just because they are said calmly and with an air of authority, especially when we have no knowledge about the subject or evidence at hand to counter what’s being said. Consider how much false news stories are passed on on tumblr and facebook just because they sound legit. So many of us never even check the source!

This is how empathy can be created with tone. Take a topic that’s somewhat controversial and present it with soft music, gentle vocabulary, soft lighting. Now you’ve made your audience predisposed to understanding a scene exactly as you want them to. Remember soft focus in the 40s? Every time we saw soft focus around an actress’ face or a set, we knew that either romance or a dream sequence was likely to follow.

Tone is also how empathy becomes dangerous. A classic example is Birth of a Nation and the resurrection of the KKK. Despite having existed in almost no form in America since the 1870s, the KKK came roaring back to life in 1915 with the release of the movie, Birth of a Nation. In this movie, a freed slave is depicted as a thief and rapist and all around vile guy. The character is pursued, caught, and punished by KKK members. That same year, the Klan was re-established in Atlanta with only 15 members, their regalia based on the costumes in the movie. While the original post-confederacy Klan was almost entirely about anti-blackness, the rebirth version was focused on modern issues including anti-Catholicism and antisemitism, despite those values never being featured in the movie. Enrollment ballooned to an estimated 6 million members by 1924, but resistance crushed that number back to 30k by 1930.

It’s important to note that Birth of a Nation was based on the play The Clansman, which was a direct response to a play version of Uncle Tom’s Cabin. Three pro-clan books were written after Thomas Dixon Jr. saw the play and vowed to effectively rewrite the story in the manner he believed was historically accurate. He even “borrowed” characters from Uncle Tom’s Cabin and reskinned them in a positive light. This retort wasn’t just because Dixon was upset, but also because Uncle Tom’s Cabin, written by Harriet Beecher Stowe, had become quite famous and important nationally. While there were efforts to criticize it, it was largely perceived well and enabled many to empathize with the lives of slaves. The book created such a shift in national narrative about slavery that it has been credited with being one of the sparks starting the Civil War.

Links: Generic KKK Wiki || WaPo about BoaN reviving the KKK || SPLC about BoaN as KKK propaganda || Wiki about The Clansman || WaPo follow-up article about BoaN and The Clansman || Wiki about Uncle Tom’s Cabin || Wiki about the author of The Clansman || Harriet Beecher Stowe Center about impact of UTC

This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t write tricky subject matter. We absolutely should! Writing exposes us to new ideas, understanding, information. However, the fiction that we write has to be tonally appropriate for the content we are writing. This is where 50SoG failed. Despite depicting an abusive relationship that had no consideration for consent, those elements weren’t tonally defined as bad, but rather romantic. Hence the push following the release of 50SoG and, to a lesser extent, Twilight to contextualize and tonally correct the events of the books. Fiction affects reality, and tone is partially how it does so, so we have to be careful about how we write and interpret fiction in our lives. The consequences of glorifying harmful content is all too real.

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trilogykitty:

self care reminder

if you see this on your dash, i want you to do atleast one of the following;

– get yourself a glass of water

– take any meds you need

– eat something (even if its just a few grapes or something)

– take a deep breath

– stretch

– get up and walk around for atleast 5 seconds

– unclench your jaw and fists, relax your shoulders

friendly reminder that i am proud of you no matter what you were or werent able to accomplish today, because simply being here is enough!

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