Anyone who has come in contact with me in person has probably heard me discuss my “Rules of My World.” I feel as though I mention them rather frequently, but I don’t know that I’ve ever publically written them down for reference or for other people’s amusement. So far, I only have four Rules of My World.
Rule Number One: There are two people in your life that you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER piss off – the person who feeds you and the person who pays you. This applies to restaurant staff, waiters, waitresses, grocery store personnel, or anyone else that is responsible for providing you with food. Obviously, the person who pays you applies to finance clerks, bankers, or other people who could make your money magically disappear if you make them upset with you for some random reason.
Rule Number Two: I can be as grumpy as I want in my own office, but I have absolutely no right to bring my grumpiness into your office. There are a lot of people in the world with a variety of different offices. Some people work as highway construction personnel, which means their work areas are their offices. You might see them building bridges and paving roads or doing other things of that nature, and that’s their office. Some people are zookeepers and their office is the animal care facility which you pay money to visit. Some people work in actual offices, some don’t. My point is that everyone out there is just trying to do their best at whatever job they have to pay their bills and take care of their families. Wherever they work is their office and I have no right to bring whatever residual grumpiness I might be having from my own job or life into someone else’s office, whatever their office might entail. Plus, I have found that people are more willing to help someone who is not particularly grumpy versus someone who is angry and frustrated.
Rule Number Three: Be a positive contagion. This is a new rule for me, only created and implemented for the first time because of my recent visit to Hoth. Attitudes and behaviors are infectious, which means that negativity will breed more negativity, which will decrease positive energy. I have been practicing this rule like a lifeline for the last week and it has done wonders to help boost everything in my life. For example, when I was attempting to return home from my visit to Hoth, I had problems at every airport I went to, first with the weather, then mechanical issues, then with attempting to go standby on an overbooked flight. Once I finally arrived at my second airport, I waited in line for an hour to get to the desk to attempt to fix my next connecting flight. I knew it would be a long wait, so I worked to be calm and make those in line around me smile. And it worked. You could almost feel the tension leave people as the agitation and the frustration abated. The same is true with my daily interactions. Those people who work in the areas I frequent now see me and smile and say hello. I am always smiling and so it is contagious to those around me. I wish I could spread my awesome energy out to more of the people I care about, but I do what I can within my current limitations. And part of being a positive contagion is being thankful for everyone and everything in my life, which I really, really am.
Rule Number Four: Interact with the people in your life. I guess in some ways, this goes hand-in-hand with the previous rule about being a positive contagion. I was having such an awesome and amazing day yesterday that I decided to share my joy as much as possible. Anyone who “liked” or “commented” on any of my personal facebook updates were people who had taken the time to interact with my personal life, not just to share a cute picture that someone else had created and posted first, but to read and interact with the words and concerns and joy of my own life. In return for those who took the time and energy out of their day to show me that I mattered to them, I then wrote a personal message on each of their walls that let them know how thankful I am for their presence in my life and how they have had a positive impact on my life. Because I really am unbelievably thankful for all the people in my life and without each and every person I’ve met, I wouldn’t be who I am today. And who I am today really is pretty spectacular. I still have things I need to work on, but that’s the fun and challenge of life. I would go crazy without appropriate challenges 🙂 Humans are social creatures and without some sort of personal interaction, I think the world becomes a much less awesome place. A lot of people worry about how to interact and they worry about being offensive or getting things wrong and so they hide themselves away in their homes. They barricade the doors and interact with their world through the safety of the computer screen, where things don’t have to hurt and they can turn it off and walk away when things don’t go the way they want. But that’s not the best or most healthy answer. People make mistakes. The people who love you might wind up hurting you, but I would rather have one hour with you than a thousand days without you. Your interaction in my life makes my heart soar. Even something as simple s “liking” something on facebook because it shows me that you are out there and you are alive and okay. I figure that if even the simplest of interactions with people in my life means so much to me, than interacting with those in my life could give the same warm fuzzies to them. Don’t be afraid to interact with real people in your life. Don’t let your pride get in the way of a happy future. Forgive the past and start fresh and new. Look at the world with eyes that see beauty and be willing to see the beauty other people see. Above all, interact with the people in your life on any level.
I am sure I will think up and put in place more rules as time moves forward. Overall, I think my current four rules are pretty good. They’ve helped me a lot, especially these days.