asexual-and-proud:

@ every person who’s ever made a comment about how ‘that’s called friendship’ when aro people talk about QPRs

shut up and listen for once in your life.

Would you combine your finances with a friend?

Would you adopt (or have) kids with your friend?

Would you plan to live your entire life with your friend?

Would you get pets with your friend?

Would you set up your entire life around spending all your down time with your friend?

Would you spend every night for the rest of your life in the same bed as your friend?

No. You wouldn’t. You would do those things and more with your sexual and romantic partner.

A QPR is not a friendship.

I have a best friend, we’ve known eachother since we were 5 and nobody else will ever be my best friend.

I have a QPP, we met in high school and she’s not my best friend because she’s me QPP and that’s a different kind of relationship.

I would never consider planning the rest of my life around my best friend. If we have to be far away then so be it, it wold suck but we’d keep in touch.

If I had a choice between a job far away and staying with my QPP then it probably wouldn’t be a choice.

I’d never consider asking my best friend to come with me if I moved away for work for good. I’d only move if my QPP was coming with me.

When my best friend and I share a bed on sleepovers we barely touch.

The one night I got to spend with my QPP we cuddled all night.

My QPP and I walked through the mall holding hands. My friend and I wouldn’t do that because that’s not how friends are once you’re more than about 10 years old. Not here at least.

When my best friend comes over we sit on different chairs and talk and share memes and play games.

When I have time with my QPP we’re right next to eachother and only let go if we have to.

When my best friend has to go home it’s a wave and a ‘seeya’ and we’re good.

When my QPP has to go home it’s a five minute hug with foreheads and noses touching and we’ve gone down the driveway together to the car.

My best friend and my QPP are equally important to me because I don’t view any one kind of relationship as being superior to another. They’re different.

Best friends expect eachother to have their own families and their own lives. QPPs hope to be able to share their entire lives.

If, after reading all of that at least twice you still want to invalidate QPRs and say that we’re just friends then I invite you to kindly go fuck yourself.