I am so fucking frustrated with the pseudo lgbt+ writers groups on Facebook. The majority of the members are straight cis writers who only write ‘dirty’ gay sex about cis gay men. Everything they share or post is all about the sex or gay angst. I’m so fucking tired of it.
Just … come on! There are how many more letters to that fucking acronym? And sex isn’t the be all end all of a relationship. And there are a lot more genders than two.
I’m just so fucking done. Queer writer support group my fat ass.
I wholeheartedly agree with this.
A lot of straight cis women tend to use us as a crutch for “exploring their sexuality” which is all shades of fucked up let me tell you. Especially when they only focus on sex, which is another thing that homophobes tend to dish out. If a gay couple is on a kid’s cartoon, it’s automatically too “adult” and “confusing” for kids and not appropriate, even though for decades we’ve been showing them het relationships and all that it’s done is damage LGBT+ kids who grow up thinking there’s something wrong with them.
I was one of those kids.
Another thing that bothers me about is the whole “dirty gay sex” “gay angst” “sinful gays” “my sexy gay babes” or whatever else straight cis women use to describe their ocs/canon characters in a same sex ship is that they’re promoting the idea that gay people are a fetish. They tend to mock men for watching lesbian porn and yet don’t realize the irony of what they’re doing.
Gay people are not a fetish!!!!
No seriously, this annoys me, when I see, “Oh my god I’m sinning so baaaaaad,” and the only “sin” is that it’s a same sex pairing. Also why the holy fuck would you put, “Wow I’m sinning” when that is literally the excuse some people would use as a reason to hurt us. In some parts of the world gay people are stoned to death for their “sins” of being attracted to the same sex, both sexes or different genders. In others they’re arrested. We’re still discriminated against, we’re still denied representation (and when we get it the homophobic straights complain about how we’re cramming our sexuality down their throats, we’re “ruining” a series, we’re “gaying” everything up, we’re “destroying” a character *furiously looking at the straight cis men/women who called Jacob Frye being bisexual a malicious lie and tainting of Jacob’s character, fuck you people*) and it takes a lot of courage and bravery for an LGBT person to come out, to be true to themselves. Straight cis writers take this away from us by implying our struggles are their porn fodder, their “guilty pleasures,” their “sinful ships.”
What they probably don’t realize, or probably don’t care, is that these actions dehumanize the LGBT community. It’s harmful. It’s disgusting. If you want to write your gay ships, your lesbian ships, headcanon a character as bisexual or write a trans woman, you can do all these things and have a blast without making it exclusively sexual or fetishizing. You write it the same way you’d write a straight couple. Would you focus entirely on their sex life or their angst being a straight person? No. Then please don’t do that for LGBT couples and people, we’re more than our sexual orientation or our gender. They’re a crucial part to who we are, yes, but we’re not solely defined by it. Just like you are not solely defined by being straight or cis.
I could not agree more. The fetishization really appalls me, as well as their tendancy to talk over queer authors.
C.A. Jacobs
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