gender-questioning-teen:

br0ken-and-lost-deactivated2018:

No one should scroll past this

*cries* I am physically inable to not reblog this

happilynever:

threehoursfromtroy:

hotboyproblems:

Anyone else only in their 20s but feel like they are running out of time to get their life together??

Don’t.

I felt this way too, in my twenties, but you know what?

I began transitioning at 30. I went back to grad school at 32. I’m living my best life, and while I’m a little behind the curve compared to some of my classmates on some things, I’m also so far ahead of them on others.

You need follow nobody’s schedule but your own.

Life is hard and the world isn’t doing any of us favors.

Be kind to yourself, and remember that you still have plenty of time. The only difference between starting now and 5 or 10 years earlier is now you have more experience.

I needed to hear this so badly

starlightomatic:

phoenixyfriend:

starlightomatic:

starlightomatic:

starlightomatic:

starlightomatic:

I’m not gonna argue that you have some existential obligation not to schedule things on Jewish holidays but I am gonna say that when you do it, it makes Jews a little less welcome in your space

And this is especially an issue in a space that is already for a marginalized group and is trying to be intersectional, eg. an LGBTQ group

And like, I know there are Jewish people who’d still go, but tbh that’s kind of part of the issue — by scheduling things this way, you’re contributing to the stress of having to choose, the pressure to assimilate, and the tension of being a Jew in the diaspora

Non-Jews can reblog this

If you’re like me, then your first reaction to this was “Okay, but there are a lot of holidays and a lot of religions, how do I schedule around all of them?”

So I went and found an Interfaith Calendar of Holy Days for major religions.

(More under the cut.)

Keep reading

Thank you for this addition! I was actually thinking of linking this exact calendar. And very good point about checking in with someone from the religion — many holidays are minor or at least don’t really get in the way of going to events. Like, scheduling something on Chanukah or Tu Bishvat would be totally fine.

lines-and-edges:

shipping-isnt-morality:

ankewehner:

shipping-isnt-morality:

this website has got to stop treating sex as something that’s inherently impure, dangerous, and disgusting

Funny, from where I’m sitting, it looks like sex is treated as compulsory, and even if you’re asexual you’re weird if you don’t at least want to read porn.

the thing is, these perspectives aren’t as exclusive as they sound at first

sexual moors are contradictory and impossible all the time. you can have people who are simultaneously aphobic and bigoted towards even the most vanilla of kinks. You have a ton of people who see sex as natural, inevitable – and therefore people who don’t want it as unnatural – but also as something dangerous, something that has to be strictly controlled and something that’s only morally ok in narrowly defined circumstances. that’s the dominant cultural perspective, but shades of it travel into queer spaces all the time, removing some gender barriers but maintaining the same fundamental “you must experience attraction to the people and ideas that we’ve decided are ok”.

It’s the classic “if you don’t want it, you’re a prude; if you want it, you’re a slut” catch-22, with a socially progressive hat. It’s not really a good situation for anybody.

You really nailed this description, thanks.

This goes with how radfem rhetoric is often essentially patriarchal and conservative in nature, due to being a re-skin of the authoritarian cultures its adherents were usually raised in.